My hard work and leisure

Let’s be honest (talking to myself). I’ve enjoyed quite a bit of leisure time in my life. I like a variety of things that could be considered leisure –games, music, strolling, chit-chatting…

I could spend a lot of a time doing things for no further purpose, just the sake of doing them. I could also do nothing and still feel OK.

But I also like to go from one point to another, to make stuff happen, stuff that matter more than just fun –or at least that’s how I see it.

There is only one thing I hate about all this; I hate to go around in circles being unable to reach one point from another.

It really does no good to me to find out there is something wrong and be unable to put something right in it’s place. And all that urgently worrisome news give me that feeling that there is something terribly wrong. So then I’d logically think why not fix it? But nobody fixes it. And everybody discusses how bad it is instead.

Like I said I enjoy pointless fun. But when things get serious I only receive and offer practical solutions. No feeling bad and then treating the feeling bad; I know that rat race. At least if you want to feel bad have the guts to feel it all the way, or make it so you’ll feel better than ever. I don’t want balance. I want to either arrive somewhere or not. And I definitely don’t want alarms for nothing.

Were we in an old community and somebody sounded the alarm for nothing we wouldn’t take it lightly, and was there a problem we’d handle it. Why not now?

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“Free will doesn’t exist”

‘Free’ and ‘exist’ can be an oxymoron, as we consider that which exists is limited, located, bound to rules, interrelated to other things. So how could it ever be free?

That’s all very logical, but it cannot ‘explain’ how come anything exists at all. Even if we backtracked history to the tiniest particle, it couldn’t had made itself.

There is a kind of a existence that resolves the question ‘what made what?’, cause and effect, as it is that which creates it, it can be cause and effect, creativity and creation.

As cause it is not a particle, it is not anywhere, anytime to be observed, it has no shape, it doesn’t have anything, but it’s effects can be ‘something’, creations and can thus be observed as well. Will is not what it ‘has’, will is what it is. It is unlimited no matter what it conceives to be –human or otherwise.

Nothing above opposes physical laws etc, as I don’t know much about their source. It’s meant to explain the potential to think, to imagine and to intend. I know this first hand for a fact. I can easily demonstrate I can think of anything, anytime regardless of the environment as much as I could think in relation to the environment as well as to the past if I wanted too. And I don’t think I can do anything others can’t either.

Disillusionment at happiness and pleasure

What do you think that a person that was experiencing significant pain, loss, betrayal and other such shocks would think if he encountered somebody else that was actually pretty happy? He couldn’t relate to that, right? It wouldn’t be true for him that happiness actually existed. It could appear kinda fake.

And so if such a person pushed himself to be happy, positive to feel pleasure he could as well think that the way to go about it is the faking it. Was he stuck at being unhappy he would refrain from conceiving truly (for him) happy things, or being truly happy about things but he’d try to be happy about things he’s also unhappy about. And to attain that he’d need to try hard, and his happiness would be pretty doubtful.

That’s about how ideas like that happiness is fake, or that only fake happiness can exist, or that life is vain become popular. Moreover, people are often put to compete who’s happier than whom, -as if it was some external duty- which makes them push it and fake it.

One can be truly be happy, truly love and so on. But to be that on must truly be that. Saying words, looking like it is trying to approximate it but it’s not truly it.

Not all want, like, enjoy, are happy with the same things. And pushing everyone to pretend so may create huge problems to those person. Each one can know what he want to like, to be happy with and about. And that is a good route to attain it.

So I’m not telling you to be happy, to be positive. I’m telling you to follow your own compass. Be unhappy if you will, but if you can be happy about something it will be due to yourself, and you’d better set that thing yourself.

Before you think ‘reality’

Imagine how it would be like if we all spoke our thoughts unconditionally, and at all times.

Some ‘terrible’ things could happen, like business men telling their customer they were faking being friendly just to make them buy things. Or customers telling business men they were faking complains just to get a better price, or some dude quoting porn at women that crossing the road.

However, some wonderful things would also occur, that would quickly overshadow the ensuing chaos. Like an intimidating person would no longer be that intimidating if he merely said that he was trying to scare others for no reason. Children would tell their teacher ‘I’d rather be out and play’. People had been covertly harming others ‘under the radar’ would make their intentions know. And basically, in the final analysis, it would only be them that would have something to lose. The rest would know whose with them and whose against them at all times, they could trust and love in actuality and not in words.

And so we would quickly begin to run out of problems. ‘Reality’ would change rapidly, and towards improvement and not worsening as the truth would come to the surface.

It isn’t true that truth is grim. Said ‘reality’ is, only because it’s the altering and changing of truth. We don’t all want to eat each other. And if some do, most wouldn’t if they truly saw others for what they were. We live in fairy tale constructed by many words and acted in a theater play that we call life. And we’re not even the authors of our scripts.

Life can be very very different, even here on Earth.

About being open-minded

A problem always consists of contradiction. It can be a contradiction of thoughts, of objects, of anything. If somebody wished to buy beer but there was no open store at that time that’d be a problem. If somebody was living but was also threatened by illness or starvation that’d be a problem. If somebody wished to speak but was shy that’d be a problem.

Numerous people throughout history have attempted to help others solve their problems, and on the same time numerous others -either out of stupidity or intention- have attempted to achieve the opposite.

Studying has a lot to do with problems resolutions. When somebody seeks to become skilled in a particular field he seeks to resolve the problem if being unable to achieve something. And there is a lot of good information on how to become skilled on many fields, but on the same time there is also the opposite. And we can have this problem of people seeking to learn to achieve X but on the same time being uncertain which course will enable them to achieve it. Even worse we can have the problem of people being uncertain what they wish to achieve and study so they can learn what to wish to achieve.

Uncertainty, doubt, confusion are not ‘nothing’. When nothing is present something can exist. If I intended nothing I could effortlessly intend something. But was I confused what I intended I’d need to resolve that confusion instead, otherwise I would be stalled. And so, some have invented that system of confusing others, and then giving them the solution themselves, because when somebody is confused he becomes ‘hungry’ for solutions, so he can then go live. If -for example- I wanted to have a relationship and I failed continuously, I would stop and think to myself ‘what the hell?’ And then somebody could come and guide me, and who knows where that guidance would lead to. That person could tell me that I failed because ‘women are bad’, or because ‘capitalism’ or ‘communism’ or ‘the world…’. And I would feel good that my failure had nothing to do with me; however, those solutions wouldn’t enable me to then have a relationship, they would cripple me to the degree I believed them.

That is why there is a need to have consistent systems of information. If we wish to live, we need to be able to resolve problems related to life. It is a necessity and there is no alternative. There is no ‘nothing’ in life. Life is an attainment, that’s continuously attained. The alternative would be no life, which doesn’t exist in life.

One can either set his own goals or allow the environment to make him set his goals. In both cases, he would be doing it himself. So why do the second when one can do the first? Do you think that’d lead to conflict? No, unless you intended to conflict. And those few people that I mentioned above, keep pounding ‘conflict, conflict, conflict’. They make it seem that all life is so dangerous, so terrible that nothing can be done about it. Then they come and ‘give you a hand’ by making you work for their own causes. Don’t buy that, just set your own goals. It doesn’t matter to me what goals you wish to attain for I don’t need you to work for me, nor do I need to cripple you so you wont attain what you want. My own goal is ‘no problem’ and that is what I wish for others too.

When you choose to accept information that will help you attain something, you need to be very careful of consistency. Does that information lead there, or does it contradict itself? In other words, is it enabling or is it problematic?

I personally have a love/hate relationship with philosophy because it is ‘open minded’, anything goes, and so anyone can write a book, and call it ‘philosophy’ even if he swears at philosophy in the same book. And even though I don’t have anything against other’s freedom to write books and publish them, I also don’t buy that they’re all ‘equal’, as if they were numbers. No, philosophy is a minefield with few treasure chests. Most people create more problems and become more stalled or even apathetic after having studied philosophy than they were doing before, because they do not discern which information with enable them and which information will stop them. So, this is an invitation to discern.

I’m very well aware my texts don’t help everyone attain their goals either, but could only help those that have similar goals to my own, and that’s what I intend to do. That is my team. I don’t have the ‘right’ information. Sometimes I give enabling information for those whose goals coincide with my own. I wish to help others help themselves the same way I help myself. And if I failed myself using a bunch of information I wouldn’t want to share it.

Objective and subjective

There is no objective nor subjective existence.
Existence is, otherwise nothing.
An object made of particles can exist.
A concept about that object can exist.
A concept that’s irrelevant to an object can exist.
The concepts of subjective and objective can exist as well.
There cannot be non-existence, nothing.
There cannot be doubtful existence.
There cannot be wrong, false, untrue, invalid existence.
Existence is or nothing that can be known nor spoken by any means is.

How collectives go to hell, and why it doesn’t matter

Groups, relationships, and generally associations can be wonderful. |

If ‘we’ become unable to control them though, we seek to find more indirect ways to do so. A very popular way is that of the common threat, the common enemy, the common problem. If a group is loose, out of control, hardly a group at all, one may try to hold it together by forcing it to come together so as to face a common problem. It is a solution of need, and it is doomed to sooner or later make that association sink, if it doesn’t change.

Such a problem could be a financial problem, or a problem described in a religion, or an exterior enemy. It doesn’t really matter.

The more members become convinced that problem exists, the more they oppose it, the larger it grows. And then the more they need to oppose it, and then the larger it grows –all to the detriment of that group, relationship or even individual.

Then affirmations can be introduced as a solution. What is an affirmation? It is ‘positive’ reaction against a problem that doesn’t resolve it but changes it instead. For example, if one feels bad about himself, he can affirm himself that he is great and that badness exists in others. Or if somebody feels threatened by Satan he can say that God is with him, and Satan is with others, and so on.

Collective affirmations about ‘what is true’ seem to grant legitimacy to that truth, because when another affirms something it is not ourselves that affirm it, we think –it is another.

And so, because it is another, it has nothing to do with us. And so it is real, because that’s what we think real is –that which has nothing to do with us and is yet perceived by us.

And so we can feel affirmed affirming each other, and even if the ship we live on sinks we can feel relative security; as -at least- we have each other.

And if somebody says something different, the cycle of affirmations is threatened and wronged, and so we can feel threatened and wronged ourselves, and burn that witch.

What is the solution? The solution is not to oppose a perceived problem, but to not have that problem at all. The solution is wholeness, not opposition. And the solution is to be overtly in control, with love and care, and not to try to be indirectly in control by calling upon exterior problems that ‘have nothing to do with us’.

 

Learning

Learning is a self-determined process. It cannot occur without a will to occur.

That method of arguing between one opposite side and another, not only doesn’t bring more understanding between those that argue, but it brings misunderstanding and hostility until disconnection occurs.

One cannot be responsible what another learns. Each one of us is fully responsible for what he/she thinks. In seeking to learn, one is responsible what he learns. And those who want to know truth, do know truth one way or the other.

I’m fully happy if people never think anything close to what I think. It is their full right to do so, as self-determined beings, responsible for themselves. I only speak for that look for what I write and nothing more. I don’t care to ‘lure’ anyone into reading from me, leave alone to convince him. I only write so I can be found.

How to get unstuck

One can only be stuck trying to finish something.
 
He can be stuck eating candy for he cannot have enough, or he can be stuck trying to understand something he doesn’t, or anything else that he doesn’t finish.
 
The way to get others stuck for good is to give them tasks they couldn’t even possibly finish. For example, it isn’t possible to be ‘happy’ like a celebrity that’s miserable but only appears to be happy on camera. Or it isn’t possible to be with somebody who’d seduce you without any intention to actually be with you. Or it isn’t possible to be ‘proper’ for another who would lose if he admitted there’s nothing improper about you. That could get one stuck.
 
How to be unstuck? Even though you’re not supposed to finish what another designates for you so you wont finish it, you can finish what you designate for yourself to finish. Pick a target you can easily finish and finish it, then pick a bigger one and finish it, and so on. Things become possible on a rising scale of difficulty. That way it no longer seems like one needs to ‘move a mountain’ so as get something done.

The problem with self-help

I’ve had numerous discussions with people regarding how we should improve our lives. And with few exceptions I’ve noticed that discussing alone is pretty much vain.

Most people don’t even believe that anything about themselves could actually change. And so, when they think of the possibility of ‘improvement’ they try to change others instead. And of course, that’s not even logical. As if you think you cannot change yourself, how would you change everybody else?

The truth about self-help is a little grim on the surface. It takes extraordinary discipline and persistence to actually improve yourself. If it was easy then self-help wouldn’t even be needed.

When you have a problem you have an overwhelming force that convinces you that problem exists for you. If you could tackle with that force easily you could tackle with that problem easily too. It is possible to do it, but like I wrote above it takes extraordinary discipline and persistence. You also need to know that the path you’re on will actually help you tackle with that problem. Uncertainty will make the foundations you build your efforts on uncertain, and so your efforts will become uncertain too.

An (not ‘the’) alternate route is helping each other. That can work much better, as you don’t need to discipline yourself, another does that for you. But then you also need to trust that person, and that he can actually help you. Because that most often fails too, we now have authoritarian notions that help exists when it doesn’t. You ought to admit you’re helped otherwise you’re -in one way or another- ‘wrong’. Help departs from being what the helped wants to achieve, and becomes what the helper wants to achieve. And so it becomes betrayal.

I’d like to form a group for the purpose of helping each other. But what I described above, makes it difficult. People have been sabotaged into conflating help with betrayal. They think that being helped makes them ‘wrong’, that they must always play cool, or -alternately- that they should do the opposite and make others ‘wrong’ for their condition.

In actuality no making self or others ‘wrong’ is needed. When actual help occurs, everything improves, including ‘others’.