Spending has been demonized and been compared to greed, whilst it is quite the opposite. Spending is offering, and getting something back is receiving. And in a fair trade, exchange one should get what he receives.
So, why the hell am I saying that all of a sudden, did I suddenly decide to promote consumerism? Not at all, for the market is -in my opinion and at large- quite emetic with all that ‘free stuff’. Nobody really gives any ‘free stuff’. Google that provides a great service for free, is also ultra rich. How come? Yes, it’s advertisements. That’s the free stuff I’m talking about. They offer something, and they take something back. And that isn’t free at all, and it shouldn’t be called that. Not only they made good $, but they also now most internet traffic and commerce. Make up your mind, there is no ‘free stuff’.
A hook is an object you send out and then you pull back and it has something hooked on it. That’s your ‘free stuff’. And I’m not saying all sorts and of give and takes are like that. But they’re so much in fashion. And if one is not honest that he offers something and expects something back, be sure he will try to take it without your being aware of it, only because you will wish to offer something back, even if you don’t tell yourself so.
There can be other ways. There can be an outright honest give and take. You state what you give and you also state what you want back. Nobody likes to love and to not be loved back or to be hated, and it works the same way with all other exchanges. And although there may be generous folks that openly offer (good) things to others, there aren’t many others who can appreciate it and even voluntarily offer something back too, because they are used to that system with the ‘free stuff’. They consider what is free is for fools, that it is a hook, and they may even attack in return.
So how does that fit in those spiritual, metaphysical, philosophical topics I usually tackle with? Exchanging goes beyond trading with money and that sort of stuff, starting with yourself. Actually, starting with MY self. I realized all the happiness and love I had ever felt was actually happiness and love that was being put there by me. Also, the more I expected to get good stuff from others than myself the less I did. I was just being too passive to get any at times. And when you do get some like that, it’s most often not that genuine and you know it. And the worst thing you can do about it is to complain, and the best thing to do is to offer.
So my tip for the new year is to spend a lot of what you wish to receive, and to not expect to receive without getting hooked to those who wish to receive, and to offer to those who can receive and appreciate. And if what you offer is not cheap, don’t advertise it as such.
Have a great year