Subjective idealism

What’s wrong about a projection? A projection is a person putting his own thoughts unto another person saying his own thoughts pertain to that other person. The source of that trouble is that the person doesn’t take responsibility for his own thoughts, he doesn’t think that his own thoughts are his own. He thinks his thoughts are ‘reality’. And so he can go and blame others for what he thinks.

All your thoughts are your own. Even if you examined the material world on a particle level you’d never find any of those thoughts you had been thinking. Particles don’t generate thoughts.

Berkeley said that there are only two things; spirits and ideas. And that each spirit experienced it’s own ideas (imagination). And life was just each spirit experiencing it’s own ideas. And -specially in older times- it’s a popular idea among Buddhists too to consider that the universe was just a dream. And that’s why they deemed it so important to not be compulsively attached to it, because that made them feel victimized.

If it’s true that each spirit experiences it’s own ideas then how come I could drive and car and you could see me driving it from outside? That is because we can communicate. We can -potentially- share our ideas. But that doesn’t mean that they’re one. If I played a game on the internet against another and that other could see me like I could see him too, those would be two games, not one. For then each computer would be running it’s own. That’s how stuff works.

Your experiences do not depend on others. Only if you agree with others to experience about the same you do experience about the same, or whatever other rule you may agree over.

Like I’ve written before, right now you are completely free from any factor to think of anything you wish. And if you choose to take into consideration others things, like the past, like a potential future, like your immediate environment, you can do so as well, although you don’t have to. That’s why thought is free, because it depends on you. And what do you depend on? That’s where logic stops. Because you are the only truly self-sufficient thing that’s ever existed.

And if this is your ideas, dream, imagination and it -sometimes- happens that you don’t like it, you may as well imagine of something that you like.


The wrong being

The is one right thing for a being, and that is to be what it is.
And there could be one wrong thing for a being, and that would be to not be. And such a thing cannot be.

No being can possibly be wrong. A being can be. And just like it can be, others could be as well. And they are all right.

A being is not right for another, but it is right for itself. And so it is completely vain to determine which one is right and which one is wrong.

And where and how beings come from can become obvious when a being can be right, and another being can right too, without ever needing to think each other wrong. And a key to attaining that is called understanding. Ultimately, understanding each other is understanding oneself.

Misunderstanding is inherent to fighting

Let’s imagine there are two persons, and they argue whether there is a mouse behind a wall; one says ‘yes’ and the other says ‘no’. And let’s imagine that both are determined to win against each other. And that means that for one to win the other must lose.

No matter how many clues the one who wants to prove that there is a mouse brings, the other will argue against it. It will not matter. Even if he tore that wall down and the mouse became obvious, the other guy wouldn’t refer to it’s truthfulness.

Thus, if we wish to know truth we must not argue against each other, but we must collaborate in a direction of knowing truth. I’m not saying that we ought to agree –not at all. I’m saying we must have a common purpose, otherwise it becomes futile.

And just like in case of a fight one will be unwilling to understand the other (and thus wont), in case of understanding each other fighting will not exist.

So better try to be understood, and don’t try to win.

Love VS Respect

If you love me don’t respect me.

It’s not that I bother to sit and have fights. I don’t bother with that at all. If somebody is hostile I send him to hell (bye bye), but that very rarely occurs to me.

But if I wanted somebody’s respect I’d want him to refrain from being himself so I wouldn’t feel disrespected, so I would feel great and so I wouldn’t feel insignificant or something. I don’t need that, and I don’t give it either. I don’t want to treat anyone like he needs it.

I don’t follow anyone who wants my respect either. A friend who’s taught me some things always wanted me to be free from him, and not to depend on him. I could say now ‘that’s respect!’. But I think that’s caring.


Each one knows himself and only himself and nothing more. What each one considers that self to be is a different subject that cannot be taught.

One can also have ideas what others are like due to what he’s been told, taught, witnessed, due to past conclusions of his own.

But the only way for one to understand another is through thorough, proper, honest,
communication with an appropriate level of love.

It is very simple, easy, effective, and pleasant to communicate that way. The problem is that it is not a norm.

The norm is to project a norm. And a norm is that which is most common in our environment to be, and that is not ourselves but what we see others being like; and that is a norm. And them in turn try to do the same. So everyone tries to project a norm on the same time, without ever having any stable reference what the norm should be. The norm is a stupid thing.

In seeking validation one alters and blocks himself in order to reach that norm and to avoid penalties. Thus what is known about him by others and what he knows about others too is never true. And so the truth about each other may remain hidden forever on.

One may have very bitter ideas about others. The good news are those are never true. Those are the result of what I described above, among other things.

The solution is to be and to act true, and that includes to speak to one’s own truth. Then validation may or not come. But as you may have seen yourself too, as we hide what we truly are, as we fail to understand what each one of us individually is, and compensate for that with ideas… we become worse and worse… and that is so untrue.

How to spot facts and paths

I’m generally not very bothered what others do with themselves and with each other, but I have encountered many times people who are completely clueless -or they seem to be- that they are on a path that leads to the complete opposite direction than what they wish to head to. And I feel sorry for them but I also think if I point out to them what they do they wont understand.

Not only have I studied but I have also experienced myself the ‘dark side’ of life, and so I can recognize it when I see it. The problem is I see it too often. And so I don’t want to get into details what those sides are, because I’d need to write on and on and on… But I would like to only mention a couple things to keep in mind, and may they be of help to you.

1. Perceive, don’t listen.

It doesn’t matter how many say something, it doesn’t matter what happens to others or what is said to happen to others. Never take something as fact that you’re not perceiving yourself.

2. A path ought to end.

Paths have a purpose, and that purpose is to end somewhere. If they don’t end, or if they don’t lead where they say they lead to they are false, or you just don’t take the path yourself all the way, like you’re supposed to.

Bottom down, you could arrive at the end of a path by completely illogical means. You could say ‘each time I eat a nacho, I will feel more enlightened’ or ‘ladies will fell more attracted to me’ or something. You could, because without your own creating your enlightenment or the opposite those things cannot exist. However, if you do take a logical path and it’s supposed to end, then it must end; and you must know from the beginning where and when it will.

Love and hate

We could vaguely divide all emotional states into two categories and call them love and hate.

Love would be all those emotions that go together with acknowledging the being that which is loved. The higher the love, the more the consequent harmony between that which loves and that which is loved, and the more their wills can match.

Hate would be all those emotions that go together with a conceived separateness and opposition against that which is hated. And that would result in more and more problems.

A third condition could be that of nothing, neither love nor hate; as for either love or hate to exist, both that which loves or hates and that which is loved or hated must exist as well.

It is an oddity that solutions to our problems are often said to be attained through hate, through creating opposition; as without opposition there can be no problem.

More about going through hardships in life

Parmenides, an ancient Greek philosopher states in his poem ‘on nature’ that existence cannot exist and not exist altogether. Either existence exists or it doesn’t exist. And that has been the basis of logic of many philosophers as well as of others who aren’t philosophers.

In the same poem, answering his own question ‘how or why something exists’ he responds that something cannot exist out of nothing and so existence neither has a beginning nor an end, neither in terms of time nor in terms of size.

However, out of that poem’s translations it isn’t clear what ‘existence’ Parmenides referred to. He merely said ‘being’. And if you examine Christianity or materialism you will find a similar notion on their basis; that either God or the universe neither have a beginning nor an end. Christianity -of course- differs to materialism as it also asserts that ‘creation’ is possible, that God may create something as well as destroy it, while materialism asserts that’s impossible.

I don’t want to make critique what others think, but I want make clear I differentiate myself from that logic altogether. The ‘is or is not’ logic cannot clarify how or why something is or is not, and although I don’t assert any ‘existence out of nothing’ either, I assert infinity.

Like ‘nothing’, infinity isn’t something that can truly be spoken of, that can truly be described. All that can be described is finite, and all that can be conceived is finite, otherwise they would be nothing in particular. There is a huge difference between ‘nothing’ and ‘nothing in particular’, and the difference is potentiality.

Our potential to conceive things is unlimited. If you could conceive something that couldn’t be conceived of you would be proving your yourself wrong, as you would be conceiving it. That which can conceive, that which can create (as well as destroy) is unlimited, infinity.

Humans play this game: They conceive something and then point out how that conceived thing ‘exists’, but they omit the fact that it is themselves that conceive it. And they omit the fact that just like they can conceive something, they can also not conceive it. And it can get more complex that that. They can go and  fight each other which conceived thing truly exists and which does not. But all conceived things ‘truly exist’ for that which conceives and perceives it.  Of course, if you communicate with another and that other gives you a concept that you perceive, that concept is then true for you too, until you quit conceiving it. Do you realize the endless circles people can put themselves in like that?

Instead of ‘is or is not’, I say there is ’cause and effect’. Cause and effect is a property of infinity. And cause and effect is all that can exist. Through cause and effect infinity becomes finite things and it perceives itself. To cause is to create, and effect is the perception of what is created in the exact moment and place that it is created. And both of those properties are your own properties, as well as the properties of all other beings.

Unless you communicated, all that would exist for you, all you could know would be what you created yourself for yourself to know. But in life we do communicate, and thus one can create something for another to perceive as well, if that other causes unto oneself to perceive another’s creation. And thus we can also have problems, becoming confused who creates what, wondering how come something exists and what to do about it, and so on. But the truth of the matter is that communication is a creation too. It is -however- a creation without which life in this universe cannot exist. This universe is an interaction of creations of many beings. In fact it is not a single universe. It is a combination what you, I and others create.

The universe is like the internet, and what each one perceives is like what each computer ‘downloads’ from the internet. Moreover, within each computer things can be created for itself as well as for other computers to ‘know’. But if that computer no longer connected to the internet, it would only have it’s own contents. The internet is a combination of computers, and it is not a single computer, although -I can imagine- some would wish to possess it all.

How can this information be of use to you? Let’s go back to ’cause and effect’ and keep this ‘in mind’; the more you seek to know, the more you seek to be effect, and the more you seek to create the more you seek to make things happen. There is no other road. There can only be creation and knowing what creation is. And the way to get your life back into your hands is to be more cause, and then you may also experience what you cause. Do you think you don’t know how to be cause? It is impossible to not be cause, as you need to cause yourself to be effect (to know) in the first place. Without cause there is only potential for cause and there is nothing else –or what some others would say ‘there is nothing’.

How could you be cause unto your life? There isn’t really any limit, but you need to keep something in mind; just like you’re fully entitled by yourself to be yourself (infinity) so is everybody else. And for as long as others as included, they must be allowed to be themselves too. If we fight each other who should create what, whose creations are valid and whose are not, we all lose. And if you encounter such fights you’d better not participate, for fighting is trying to limits each other, trying to deny our nature that is infinity.

We all can create and experience the life we wish to experience without reducing anybody else. But if we try to do the second, we also negate the first. For all beings and their respective cause and effect are infinity, and infinity is all beings and their respective cause and effect.

The point of balance between life and being

Many nice things can be said about the basic being. And all that I say I say out of myself, not out of another’s words, although other’s words have greatly helped as maps for things to find myself. And so, I do the same, in turn and I am only addressed to those who’d like to receive such a thing from me.

When it comes to life how can those things be useful? Life is not static. Absolute static life would not be alive. In life there is energy, there is motion, there are forces that we can divide into either supportive of or against life. Planets, Galaxies, the flow of blood are all in motion. But the basic being is not. It is not an object, it is infinity, and as infinity it is not part of life, but life is a part of it.

It is not true that we are all contained in a box, that we are parts. We are not parts, only objects can be parts. Our bodies are parts made of smaller and smaller parts. Planets are parts of a greater whole. But infinity is not a part; infinity is.

So how can knowing this be useful in life at all? I personally haven’t take the strict guru’s path of constant meditation and abstention from life. And basically, for as long as a guru exists, life exists too. The realization of my nature -however- has consequently brought about great clarity of what is, great comfort, joy and less suffering.

I understand very few can understand this but there is no common universe. The so called ‘universe’ is not one. The consideration that what happens to another will consequently happen to you too is utterly false. Only if you make that happen will it happen. It wont matter if you’re the last person on Earth unto whom something doesn’t happen. And in a similar fashion things may happen to you that happen to nobody else.

What you are experiencing right now is unique only for you. Nobody else experiences the exact same thing otherwise that other would be you. So don’t go and look what bad things happen to others and think that they will happen to you too. You can live in the poorest country in the world and be wealthy or to have a great relationship when others don’t. But if you look how others live like and what rules they make for themselves and what perception of ‘the world’ they have and adopt a similar perspective, a similar way of thinking and try to do the same, the same you will become –almost the same, otherwise you would be them. Remember, you are not contained as infinity, you contain.

The only true time is the now. And the only true place is the here. Everything else can only be speculated, assumed, talked about, read about, but you have no power there, for you cannot be in places and times you are not. On the contrary in an absolute here and now things can be alright, unless you say otherwise. ‘Alright’ is how is how life is supposed to be.

This is how I found my own balance in life –a combination of the limited universe and infinity if you will. Don’t be carried away by uncontrollable thoughts, specially other’s thoughts. Don’t be occupied with the unknown. Don’t wonder and don’t worry. All that is, all that can be known is here and now. Be fierce in being in your here and now and in perceiving without assuming, without fighting, without any additives. Then you may also create good experiences too.

Two masks

The basic being most often puts on ‘masks’ in life.

The surface mask is that of social manners, what he considers to be socially acceptable, so he will please and not upset others, nor put himself in trouble. Sometimes the last one prevails, and so instead of putting on a pleasant masks one might wish to put a scary one, so as to hide his own fear.

The second masks is what he thinks himself to be below the surface mask. If somebody shows something but he thinks himself to be something else, he then puts on two masks.

Below those two masks lies perfection. So neither of those ever truly serves a being.

The only problem is that in human life it is not possible to live as a spiritual being. One needs to assume a human identity, and above that human identity, even more identities get piled up, and those identities are what the being thinks it is (masks), and those often get covered by social identities (masks) too.

By realizing the nature of those masks -that they merely are it’s own creations- the being ‘becomes’ free. In fact it is always free. It is the masks that are used by it, and so by thinking it is them, it can feel it is used too, but it never truly is.

So, if you realized your own or somebody else’s surface mask and felt disappointed at what you found behind, understand that’s not the basic being either. There is no such thing as a ‘bad being’, although there can be lying about what is actually being.