Some say we are here to suffer. Some others say that we are here to seek pleasure. Other seek to transform the suffering into pleasure, or to cover it with pleasure, but they don’t quite hit the mark, in my opinion.
Nice to state all those vague things, but unless you be very specific what ‘suffering’ and what ‘pleasure’ means, what ‘living life’ means, what ‘good’ and ‘bad’ means, you don’t mean anything understandable.
So, with such vague unknown Xs in mind, one can come along and transform the X into something, which would translate as ‘the purpose in life is to do what I say’.
The other day I was also writing how I found that what I like and what I should are not separate at all, and that I use my liking as compass. But what does ‘like’ mean in specific?
Imagine having a wound on the leg and it hurts, and then somebody comes and gives you a drug, and after you take that drug you feel some sense of euphoria. Would that then mean that you like being injured, or to take drugs, or maybe that guy who brought that drug, or the area where you swallowed the drug? No. On the contrary, what you like is your disconnection from that area of pain as well as from other soreness you might be having that you’re not even aware of, as you had been having it since time immemorial, and you were considering it part of yourself.
Apparently, with the interference of external factors such as drugs, one can get confused what he likes and what not; and consequently get confused what he wants and what not to achieve, as well.
It is very much related to being able to be specific, and not to be vague, general.
Another example: Two like each other very much. At some point they have a fight. And after the fight, it seems they feel bad in the presence of each other, and better when they are apart. So what is the conclusion, being with each other is not bad while being apart is good? With such logic maybe we should also cut our limbs off, each time we hurt them, so we wont feel bad.
How come a few days or hours or minutes ago they loved being with each other? Again, what makes them feel good is the disconnection from the emotional pain and the ideas they themselves created upon themselves during and after the fight. And if they could remove that, or no longer create it, it would be again as if it hadn’t happened at all, and they would again feel nice and comfortable with each other.
That’s why some say that it takes strength to love. I’m adding it also takes strength to be free.
One needs to be able to view things individually, specifically, to make what is not wanted vanish, instead of making everything related to that vanish, instead.
For some it would be enough to get angry at somebody and hate the whole world afterwards. But you see, that wouldn’t be based on any truth, as the ‘whole world’ wouldn’t be involved in what they were feeling, but their thinking so would make it seem to them that the whole world is. And you know, when one hates the whole world, it’s very probable the whole world will hate him back, in turn; which will make him even more convinced to hate it. It’s a vicious cycle.
I’m not asserting there should never be any disconnection at all. What if somebody was pretty dishonest and wanted to drag you in a game you didn’t want to play? That would also take one away from his/her own goals, unless that’s he/she wanted. But surely, somebody who is bright enough to tell differences between different specific people, moments, conditions, instead of putting them all in one pot, and labeling it ‘men’, ‘women’, ‘world’, ‘life’, ‘dogs’ etc wont be likely to fall for lies, either.
I wouldn’t tell anybody what to want in life. The point is for each one to know with certainty for and by him/herself. I do trust that each one can do that without going wrong, for as long as he/she does it for and by him/herself, uninfluenced by false information and other influences and conclusions based on them. Hopefully I can contribute to that.