One could be surprised at how another would prefer to be in trouble, while he could easily not be in trouble, even if he protested against that trouble.
Why does does one prefer to sit and watch airplanes hitting towers on TV for over 500 times, an be terrified for the rest of his life instead of doing nothing, or maybe instead of meditating or something of that sort? Is it because he would learn anything new by watching the same over and over?
Fun is an old desire. And even though we can rationalize our attitude -that we do things for ‘good reasons’- we might often find that our basic intention is to have some fun.
Fun doesn’t always mean ‘being cheerful’. Fun can be to play horror games on xbox too. And it doesn’t necessarily mean physical action. One can have fun playing with his thoughts too.
And the mere desire to have fun can appear to be a glue that glues one to unpleasant conditions. There aren’t always any legit reasons for all the conflicts between humans. The reason might as well be a desire to have some fun.
It can be pretty traumatic to prevent fun, for then one’s desire for fun becomes more frantic as his confidence that he can have it becomes reduced. When children are constantly prevented from having fun the way they usually do (by playing) they might start having fun by complaining, fighting each other or worse. And the same is true for adults too. Adults aren’t really any more serious, or they wouldn’t be unless their freedom to be more playful hadn’t been hindered and they thus have fun by more serious means. Factories were not built for playful fun, they were built for more robotic fun.
There is no actual reason why one cannot stop thinking of troublesome things, and to be completely free from problems. But as one’s confidence of having fun ‘out there’ becomes reduced, he starts having fun in his mind, even by using problems from the long past. You might as well assume that if one was completely free to have fun by any means possible, he would never feel obliged to dwell in his mind like that, for that ‘obligation’ is connected to his own desire for fun. And most importantly nobody could trap him by hindering him from having fun while -on the same time- he offered him particular things to have fun with, so as to control him.