There can be a number of reasons why one might failt to be understood, and that’s rarely due to using bad grammar, syntax and mispelling words. Of course I know some whose writting style is much more artistic, pleasant and easy to understand than others including myself, but that’s not what I’m writting about now.
Words are often deliberately being given dual, triple or more meanings. A supporter of capitalism doesn’t understand the word ‘capitalism’ like a socialist does. Similarly a socialist doesn’t understand ‘socialism’ the way a capitalist understands it either. So even if they decided to ‘put their differences aside’ for a while and try to talk, they couldn’t truly understand each other unless each one of them used those words in the exact same meaning, although they could be pretty much convinced they actually did understand each other indeed.
Now beyond political factions, giving different meanings to words than they originally have can be done deliberately in order to create a ‘cult’. How do you create a cult? You give the impression everything outside the cult is evil and everything inside it is good, as well as that the cult group is a victim of the outsiders. You also make sure the ‘insiders’ can never understand the ‘outsiders’ to any great extent for then their fighting would end.
Religious cults aside, numerous other groups can exist that follow the same mode of operation. And the result is larger or smaller groups that cannot truly understand much outside that group and that they hate outsiders for reasons that they’ve been told.
That misunderstanding and hostility works as a shield protecting the cult’s drivers from being uncovered. Instead of them, those who believe them fight each other. In their minds they think they actually understand others because of what they’ve been told about them. But in actuality they make no effort to understand but they only accuse them, which -in turn- results in furtherly becoming misunderstood and consequently even more hostile. It’s a self-perpetuating cycles and it results in ashes.
What is the solution? If someone accused you of being something you weren’t it could result in yourself becoming hostile towards that person (or more than a single persons) too. But you see, that way you would be playED in a game others would had set up for you to be playED in, and that game wouldn’t had been set up for you to win in the long run. Fighting others will never make them understand you better. What would make them understand you better would be to make yourself, thoughts, intentions, actions known better, instead of sitting and arguing whether you are actually as bad as you’re told or whether the other is, which is what most often happens.
Understanding resolves misunderstanding or no-understanding. Always devote energy to the desirable and never to the undesirable. What you work towards, what you pay attention to, what ‘pay for’ you get. So if you want to be understood simply try to be understood. And if you fail, get better at it. And of course your will to understand and to be understood must exist before you should attempt it.
Of course, there is a minority of persons that simply don’t wish to be understood and consequently they have a much harder time understanding others as well, regardless of what they pretend. And that is because their intentions are not good, and they need to hide them. It is them who then spread misunderstanding amongst others. And putting others to fight acts as a good distraction hiding their own bad intentions.